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Art of the Flip: You Only Need to be Wrong ONCE!!! 

The Art of the Flip is human interaction.  Humans are really cool to interact with… but not all of them.  Some are real turds.  You know; predators, perpetrators… PERPS!!!   

They’ll take advantage of you when given the chance.  

Sadly, you and I only need to be wrong once. 

Cuz of a few real TURDS out there, consider the following and make them a part of your daily activities and practices.  The following list is not all-inclusive. It is meant to spur you to think about such things as you get started. Most people think about such things AFTER they encountered a turd.   

Save yourself a lot of grief and misery… set up your daily habits and practices to address your safety and security.   

It can be the one thing that separates the practitioner from the victim. 

Physical Well Being - Think about your safety when you meet the person (people) on the other side of the deal.  (Unfortunately, large items make it difficult to apply some of the following suggestions) 

  • Do Not Get Caught Alone 
    • Meet in a public place that is well lit and has spectators 
    • Meet in a decent part of town 
    • Bring another person with you 
    • Do not seal the deal close to your car… this makes it easy for a turd to see your vehicle for future reference 
    • Pay attention to the other person’s car, and make sure it leaves before you do   
  • Think About Your Family… 
    • Meet at a neutral place instead of your home 
    • Set up a PO Box so you are not sharing your home address
  • When it is necessary to finish a deal at home 
    • Always have another person at home with you. (A big dog is a great deterrent too.  I prefer the big dog approach cuz he’ll be there to greet the turd when you are not at home.) 
    • Place the item you’re selling in the driveway and keep the garage door closed
    • Do not invite the person into your house 

Mental and Emotional Well Being 

  • Focus first on the issues pertaining to Physical Well Being… 
  • Develop the skills needed to respond to people instead of react to their emotions 
  • Get out of a deal when you realize the other person is a turd - there will always be a person you can do business with 
  • Do not given out contact information until it is necessary.  Most apps enable you to message people without share your personal information.  Take advantage of those services. 

Financial Well Being… this one will be addressed in greater detail in future blog posts 

TURDS are out there!!!  Save yourself a lot of grief and misery… set up your daily habits and practices to address your safety and security.   

Become the practitioner instead of the victim. 

In future posts, we’ll dig into the different apps and their pros and cons; and we’ll link them back to the issues in this blog.

Got more safety and security tips?  Share them in the comments.

Art of the Flip: Reacting verses Responding... 

Emotionally reacting to things people do when selling and buying is a fool's errand every time!  

Your intelligence goes down every time your emotions go up. 

The person on the other side of the deal is just like you.  You are both looking out for your best interests, and trying to get the most value out of the deal.  So the seller wants the highest price possible and the buyer wants the lowest price possible.  Somewhere between these two limits lies the agreed upon value of the item in question. 

Today, this is about buying and selling drum gear to add some extra income.  I have too much gear.  That is why I am selling cymbals right now.

Some prospective buyers like to barter... offer something different to swap for a cymbal instead of paying cash for it.  It is a legit thing to do.  Offer me something that solves my problems or is really coveted and I'll definitely make the deal happen.  Some buyers are very persistent about it cuz they're willing to wear you down to get what they want and not spend money to get it.  There is nothing wrong with that either.

Then there those who will "low ball" you: make an offer the sounds like an insult.  Do not react to the feeling of being insulted or disrespected.  The person is merely asking a question regarding what you are willing to accept in exchange for what you are selling.  Remember the phrase...

Your intelligence goes down every time your emotions go up. 

The vast majority of the time, people are asking questions that require a simple and convincing "Yes" or "No" answer.  Such an answer requires no emotional energy, especially when working a deal through text or messaging.  You are able to respond to offers when you...

  • Know the least amount you are willing to accept, or the most you are willing to pay.
  • Answer questions until the deal is done.
  • Do not let emotions (yours or the buyer/seller) overwhelm you.  Your reputation is at stake, and it is the one thing you have to live with.

Buying a house...

What does this have to do with buying and selling drum gear?

 

EVERYTHING!!!

A transaction is a transaction!  The item, asset, or commodity is not relevant.  My wife and I recently bought our first house together.  I focused on staying in the logical and rational parts of the brain until the deal was done, and was all about the numbers.  The house became our home in my mind and heart once the deal was settled and we knew that we were the rightful owners.

The house (home) buying experience prepared me to get into flipping small things like cymbals and drums cuz of the principles mentioned earlier

  • Know the least amount you are willing to accept, or the most you are willing to pay. 
  • Answer questions until the deal is done. 
  • Do not let emotions (yours or the buyer/seller) overwhelm you.  Your reputation is at stake, and it is the one thing you have to live with.

Perhaps the essential thing needed to master the Art of the Flip is to remain in control of your thoughts and emotions.  You have NOOOOOOOO control over other people, and they have NOOOOOOOOOOO control over you while a deal is in work.

Surprisingly, self-control is essential for surviving in the world of music too... but we'll stay focused on the flip for now.

 

Got any hacks?  Got a stroy of success or the epic fail we all endure?  Please leave a comment.  I need a little inspiration too, cuz I am still hacking away at it.