Gotta Stop Being "A Guy"

My Wendy quickly pointed out that I need to take things nice, slow, and relaxed.    

But I wasn’t feeling any pain.  So I think I'm fine that I can start doing things.  I limited myself to light weight activities like carrying a trash bag from the house to the trash can... it's not like I was hauling drums around or working on our cars. 

She was quick to correct me over and over again, telling me to stop pushing....  She’s got a reason for grilling me like a cheese sandwich!!! 

My neck and jaw were numb from the surgery.  I could not feel anything!!! Which means I could not feel when I over exerted the muscles or tore something up.  To this day, some parts are completely without feeling. Every set back (whether felt or unfelt, deliberate or accidental) is still a set back.  Each set back prolongs the recovery time which postpones the cancer treatment. Candidly, it also prolongs the time my Wendy has to deal with my dumb ass. 

She even rolled up the newspaper and swatted me on the nose like a dog (Can you imagine that ?!?!?!?!?)… cuz I was being a guy.

You know, that guy!!! 

The guy who thinks he is okay even though his jaw and neck are still numb, just came out of surgery, and needs to regain his strength and prepare for the upcoming cancer treatment.   

Dr. Evans told me to stop being a guy too.  Is this becoming a trend? 

Waiting patiently is not easy, but it is necessary.  Today… it is critical cuz I have a full life to live and I want to get back to it as soon as possible. 

Side Note:

A big fear is that I reach the point of not being productive or useful to my family and the world I live in.  There's not much to look forward to when you feel there is no purpose for your life. I went through that once, and vowed never to go down that road again.   

Now is the time to find ways of being productive & useful that do not demand a lot of physical effort.  Some ideas are already coming into view. This recovery time may bring about some legit changes in the things I am doing. 

Have you run into such issues or feelings?  Did you crack the code? 

I’m up for any suggestion, and I will have some time to consider a lot of ideas 

Add a comment.  Share some insight.  Ask a question. 

Take care my friend!!!

2 comments

  • Curtis

    Curtis NJ

    My advice is listen to your damn doctor and your wife! Take it easy let yourself heal or you never will.

    My advice is listen to your damn doctor and your wife! Take it easy let yourself heal or you never will.

  • The Drum Coach... Eric Anderson

    The Drum Coach... Eric Anderson

    I'm on it my friend... I am putting my brain effort towards stuff I can do while I recover from this surgery

    I'm on it my friend... I am putting my brain effort towards stuff I can do while I recover from this surgery

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